It's #######5 cause I know a lot of guys do the whole dick pics and "dtf? And of course the more frustrated I get, the more I long for my ex and wishing things didn;t have to be like this and then I feel worse, and by nights end I just feel like nobody wants me. Nothing good can come out of them, even if you do hook up." kinda thing and while being respectful shouldn't earn me brownie points, it feels like it should count for something right? There is just so much with those sites that enables a borderline's destructive traits, and it is just best to surround yourself with loving and caring people such as friends, family, or a support group.Don't know why I felt the need to share that information but POF for me as well has been a type of "safe net" or place that I use that makes me THINK I feel better (momentarily). Trust me online works, you just need the right type of site (and people) for you.Now looking back I see how big of a joke it actually was. If you're picky personality-wise and/or like to write personalized messages, you get out-swamped by the millions of other guys flooding boxes with "hi, ur hot, want 2 meet up". I send off messages and a lot of them even check out my profile back. If you upgrade you will probably just have more losers contacting you. Right, and the people who use POF because they can't get a date otherwise aren't losers. If you're not getting replies now, you won't be getting replies when you shamefully hand your cash over to POF for a few extra meaningless website toys. Sure it would be nice to know when people have last logged in but I am not going to spend per month on it.POF and most of these dating sites don't work, because there are very few 'live', 'active' and 'legitimate' women on there compared to the inordinate amount of men. Up your game or pay for a hooker if you're just after a quick fling. You can do enough on pof that you do not need to pay for the upgrade. It doesn't even mention it anymore at the top where it said it was 100% free dating. To many of the features that I use to rely on now require me to upgrade my account. after calling the ex and having it blow up in my face...I ran straight to POF for some rebound/feel better hook ups or dating or even just to have those kinda feelings again.
Thanx I have had only so so success on POF where one date did result in me meeting and seeing a guy for a while.
The nobody wants me feelings always blow over sooner or later, hang in there and you will be in a better state before you know it.
Remind yourself of you better qualities, try to remember things you've done that made you feel good about yourself, try to remember instances when you knew for sure you were wanted and loved. I probably sound like a loon for saying this (ah ###$ it), but don't you wish for one of those artificial intelligence love robots to be made?
Even love and companionship are commodities to be bought and sold. It's simply destroys any notion of self-esteem I may have.
If you're not comfortable faking "confidence" you're pretty much screwed.
You know, at least a robot could handle our triggers and not leave us It's been one of my biggest fantasies for years!