Also, I'm coming from one of the biggest cities in the nation and that's a major reason for leaving, noting that SF has a population of about 60K where Albuquerque is 500K .
ABQ is not that far--lots more to do there and you can now take the train for the day.
Personally I think Eldorado is the safest place; way in the back where I use to live.
If you want safety over convenience of city living and can afford it that is the place I'd choose.
SF is not great for meeting someone to date unless you are a man.
When I've gone to the SF Singles functions it's typically 4 men to 25-30 women.
You didn't mention age ranges in your post (4 men : 25 women) but I hope the statistic holds irrespective of age cohort.